Did you know that the words “I’ll let you know” coming out of a girl’s mouth belong to the same phylum of statements as the one that goes “we will call you and tell you our decision” by a job interviewer. Unless the circumstances are unique, both statements never lead anywhere. They are just dressed up rejections and polite ways of telling you ”Sorry…you are not needed.”
The eardrums of all youthful men serve as landing spots for those woeful words from occasion to occasion. You ask a girl for a date then she responds with “I’ll let you know.” It’s all part of the complex language called ‘Womanese.’ She is trying to hide a ‘NO’ behind a half promise. It’s non-committal b.s. that allows a girl to string you along and flake on situations she’s ‘not feeling at the time’ without high repercussions. It is mansploitation that would shrivel an elephant’s nads.
The obvious likelihood is that she will keep quiet and hope you stop bothering her. If at all she lets you know, the answer will most definitely be something like “Aki pole….siwezi make kucome.” That will then be followed by a lie.
If a girl is really interested in you she’ll either make it work or reschedule. She will do her best to spend time with you. She won’t ‘let you know.’
The desire of prime vagina can cloud the most perspicacious men’s minds to a point that they don’t notice when women are just playing them. Hmmm…not a wise way to live life. No matter the situation, a man must always devote pointed mental energy to noticing any signs that things are not going anywhere with the girl he is eying.
Personally, I’ve never liked the ‘I’ll let you know” line, it’s too indecisive and I hate that. When girls give me that, I take charge, I tell them, “I need a better answer than that.” Remember that when she says “I’ll let you know” it might be pretty much a test, just to see how much balls you have. It might be a subconscious mate assessment algorithm to see if you are man enough. Don’t be afraid to put your foot down. It’s best to confront it instead of playing dumb or appearing to think she’s going to let you know. You are a busy guy, you do not have time to squeeze her into your schedule at the last minute on her terms. If you have any respect for yourself, your time, and if you have other options socially (mates, other girls) you are not going to sit around and wait for her to ‘let you know.’
As a precautionary measure, you can shield yourself from that statement before it hits you by issuing a command or suggestion instead of a question. I’ve written about this before. Do not request. Your text shouldn’t have a question mark at the end. Instead come up with a plan that has a ‘take it or leave it’ vibe to it. Instead of saying “Naeza kuona Sato?” say something like “Kam nikuspoil Sato. I’ll be doing bla bla bla…….(Insert whatever fun activity there that will act as bait to her.)” In a way, women are like fish. You cant catch many of them if you don’t place bait on your hook.
Using commands or suggestions coated with promise of good things will make you sound more confident, badass and interesting to hang out with. You’ll also come off as the ‘man with the plan.’
Never forget the above part. When a lady uses that fraudulent statement, she wants to reject you but she isn’t comfortable doing it outright, perhaps because she doesn’t really have a good reason. You’re neither offensive enough to outright reject nor exciting enough to make plans with. Something needs to give her reason to turn one way or the other, and a question will probably never do that. A command or suggestion will be of more benefit to you
