There are a ton of benefits to being in a serious, long-term committed relationship. You get to share a unique love with someone very important to you, while creating a life together. You have someone to have your back through good times and bad. And also, you can have some of the best sex in your life, because getting it in with someone you actually care about tends to trump all other forms of sex altogether. But one of the largest benefits [which we rarely speak about] is the fact that condoms can start to become less and less regular, giving way to some AMAZING sex – Amazing and RISKY sex that is.
In Kenya, condoms retain their unfortunate image as a “transitional” form of contraception – something from which couples ought to “graduate from” as their relationship becomes more stable. For young couples though, this stigma against condom use in enduring monogamous relationships may often be a bad deal because faithfulness is becoming extinct. People are fond of ‘testing foreign waters’ even when they are seeing someone. This means that having raw lungula in relationships doesn’t make it any safer than doing it with a stranger.
Like people say, there is no sex greater than RAW SEX, and the reality for most people in long-term relationships is the longer you’re together with someone, the less amount of times you will reach for the Trust or Durex CD because of laziness, familiarity and trust. There will be times in a relationship where a man will just want to bend his lady over the kitchen counter, pull her thong to the side and start long stroking her right then and there without having to search through his wallet for a condom or try to tear the CD pack with his wet nani-juice fingers. But what most couples don’t realize is that raw sex is a lot like cocaine – after the first hit, it’s easy as hell to get hooked for life. You will start doing it with everyone, even without testing sometimes..
It’s wrongfully said that a relationship holds out the promise of an end to the worry about the CD. People lie to each other that condoms are what you use when you don’t fully trust the person you’re with. Once you’ve both been tested and committed to being exclusive, you stop using them. Here in the 254, sexually active teens and adults alike rely much less on condoms once they move into committed relationships. Too many people think that insisting on a condom symbolizes a lack of complete trust in a partner. That sentiment seems widespread.
The romanticization of “dry fry” sex as a sign of greater intimacy isn’t just fueled by beliefs about trust. It’s also driven by men’s notorious complaints that condoms reduce sensation. Men are generally “much more eager than women to move past ‘the condom stage’ of a sexual relationship. Men pressure women to get onto hormonal birth control as soon as possible.
The unpleasant side effects of hormonal birth control in its various forms don’t affect every woman, but they affect some badly to the extent of making them barren. However, since they have virtually no direct impact on men, the widespread expectation is that a couple should stop using condoms and start using the Pill or an IUD once they become ‘serious’. This shifts the burden for contraception almost entirely onto women. The truth is that a man who wears a condom is sharing with his partner in a more thoughtful way than if that female partner is taking the pill.
As a man, there is damn near no greater feeling that rubbing the head of your cock slowly over your woman’s clitso her feel her wetness soak the tip. And her pussy is so fat that it welcomes, hugs and lovingly invites the tip to “come inside and make yourself at home” so as you slide every inch further and further inside of her, you get to feel her walls wrap around your dick and pulsate as you slide in deeper and deeper. The amazing feeling is how soft and wet she is and how tight the nani is gripping onto your dick and pulling and snapping back on it. You can feel everything – and that’s the damn problem. You are risking your life.
And women, it’s simply not worth it, but it will seem like it at this moment:
As a woman, there is damn near no greater feeling than cumin all over your man’s fingers and tongue and finally being ready for the full bare cock you been waiting for, and then having him tease your pussy inch-by-inch as you contract all the muscles in your nani wall to feel the head of his member caress your g-spot. You feel the smooth skin of his hard cock sliding between your wet thighs and your cum already running down his shaft. You even feel every thick vein in his penis filling up every place inside of you. You can feel everythinh– and this is the beginning of problems.
Feeling everything and then going back to condoms to feel less pleasure is fucked up because you lose the ever-so-sexy intricacies of experiencing your lover’s body. For a man, It’s feeling his girl’s tight, wet pussy grip back on his dick that makes the feeling of going raw so intoxicating – but that little wet grip is gone when a condom comes into play. For a woman, the texture of his dick truly enhances the sex, but if it’s wrapped in latex it can dull it considerably. Now these aren’t my rationalizations for why condoms are bad or why they shouldn’t be used, this is actually my argument for why condoms should be used more by couples in serious relationships. Because raw sex is like eating popcorn– you won’t be able to stop at just one piece.
Now I know there are many people who have never smashed anyone without a condom and to those people I highly salute you – but to the rest of the people out there, before you decide to do the “I don’t have a condom but I’ll just go bareback this one time” – please understand that there’s no such thing as one time when it comes to raw sex – it will just be the start of a long journey that probably won’t end the way you want it to.
