If you’re like me, you don’t want to waste time and effort on a woman who will eventually cheat on you, so it becomes helpful to know the warning signs.
There are two female character traits that highly correlate to cheating. I’ve found these traits not in women who have cheated on me, but on women who cheated on their boyfriends, fiancees, or husbands with me. In many cases, I didn’t even know she had a man until after we had sex.
Number One: She has a high need for excitement
A girl with a high need for excitement believes that life should always be fun. She fears boredom and routine. She may share memes along the lines of “Life is short” or “YOLO” and you can never find her sitting in the house the whole day. The problem is that relationships are boring by their very nature. Within only a couple of months, they turn into a repeating pattern of eating, having sex, quarelling, watching movies, and talking about the same group of friends. This is hard for some girls to tolerate. They will cheat not with the intention of leaving their boyfriend, but simply to live the fun lifestyle they believe they deserve.
The same pattern occurs with a girl who is highly impulsive, meaning she needs to act on whatever random idea pops into her head so that she can see herself as “fun” and “spontaneous.” If she is in a club with friends and sees a hot guy, the impulse of “I want to sleep with him” is one she may act on, even though her loyal boyfriend is waiting at home.
A few months ago, I was at Bar Next Door in Kiambu Road when I noticed a tall girl with nice legs staring at me. The conversation between us went well and I tried to sugua her, but she said she couldn’t do it. Not because she didn’t want to. She said, she had an on-and-off boyfriend and he was on his way to the club with his friends. Worse is that he had promised to buy her Martel. Mimi I couldn’t afford Martel, so I was ready to move on to another girl, but even after the man arrived, she kept looking my way. They all went upstairs. One hour later, she came back down and passed close to me two times, pretending to go somewhere. I knew she wanted to get freaky, so I grabbed her hand and told her to come with me to my place. I could tell it was thrilling for her to escape the club with a new man while her potential guy was still in it.
When we were in the cab, the boyfriend called. She told him she got an emergency, but that he should stay in the club and have fun with his friends. She ended the call with “Goodnight beb.” We then had sex multiple times, she spent the night, and then we had sex again in the morning.
Number Two: She has a high sense of entitlement
There are girls who keep saying things like “a real man should do this and that,” or “you are the man, si you do something.” Bla bla bla. They also refuse to take care of simple bills and such things. and are very unforgiving if you mess up kidogo. If you are dating such a woman, run.
A girl with high entitlement feels that her current boyfriend should satisfy all of her needs. If he doesn’t, then he is not holding up to his end of the bargain. She will then feel little or no guilt for fulfilling those needs elsewhere with other men.
Girls want to be satisfied in two areas: physically and emotionally. Physically, a high entitlement girl will expect you to give her as many orgasms and as much pleasure as she gives you, which is difficult unless you spend hours going down on her. And when you happen to mwaga quickly during sex, she will start lambasting you. Emotionally, she will want to remain in an attracted, happy, and contented state without any feelings of anxiety, regret, dissatisfaction, or fear of missing out. One man simply cannot satisfy both of these areas for eternity, but a high-entitlement girl expects it. If you fail, she will cheat.
Another time a high-entitlement girl cheats is after you get into an argument with her. She can’t believe that you made her upset, so in her mind, it’s not wrong to feel better in the embrace of another man. If your girlfriend gets upset with you today, there is a line of five men ready to immediately kula her. Fifty years ago, she may have only had access to the village drunk. If you don’t want a high-entitlement girl to cheat on you, you must become her hostage and always keep her happy. And that’s something you just cannot do.
Thankfully, there are some women who just want to find a good man and have a family. They are willing to work out any relationship problems instead of immediately jumping on a new cock, and see fun as the temporal and meaningless distraction that it is. May you meet such a girl.
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