Dating And Seduction

Manners Vs Looks: The Ultimate Conundrum

When it comes to choosing a lady for a long-term commitment, men are plagued by the dilemma of whether they should make their selection based on looks or whether they should prioritize character above everything else.

There are men who put manners first. Everything else takes a back seat. Such men would easily settle for an unattractive girl so long as she is well-mannered and submissive.

Some men on the other hand would rather have beauty even if it means it being the opportunity cost of everything else. They go for the hottest women they can find – women who stand out even in the kind of urban milieu where regular workouts and healthy eating are commonplace and an abundance of beauty aids such as facials, waxing, straightening, and coloring keeps the average level of female attractiveness unusually high.

These men prize extreme beauty above all the other desiderata that one might seek in a partner. It doesn’t matter if the woman is wild and unruly, if she’s pretty, they are okay with it.

Which are the smarter men? Those who go for looks or those who go for manners? The best way to discuss this is to use the female scale of beauty.

On a scale of 1 to 10, a lady who ranks as a 9 or 10 will be great to walk around with, show off and have sex with but she will most likely never submit to you. In fact, you will be the one constantly trying to impress her and make sure she’s happy.

Such a woman has been known to have the tendency of inflicting the most damage on men who have made deep emotional investments in them and are seeking some sort of romantic reciprocity

The amount of men who hit on her makes her big-headed. If you date her or marry her, the relationship with always be one-sided, with you trying to make her happy, not the other way around. Every time the two of you are in a sunken place, solving it will be the last thing on her mind. She will be thinking “what am I doing with this guy when there are many other men who want me?”

Throughout the term of your relationship or marriage, you’ll be tasked with the job of constantly re-seducing her and making sure she’s attracted to you. You’ll forever be aspiring to keep a high-level of masculinity to put a smile on her face.

That’s a lot of work.

Females who have a score of either 9 and 10 are problematic because they are used to men throwing themselves at their feet, begging. They aren’t easily impressed by little things. They tend see themselves as queens even when they are not. Can you blame them? You too would be spoiled and discourteous if women were begging and worshiping you all the time.

The only way you can handle a 9 or a 10 is if you have extremely high value as a man. Let’s say you are rich, powerful, famous or your confidence is out if this world. This way, the lady will always look up to you because there aren’t many men like you. She will even consider submitting even when she’s not naturally submissive.

However, not every man has high value. Majority of men are normal, not extraordinary. They don’t have extreme money, fame or power.  There’s nothing wrong with being normal, so long as you are happy.  Not all of us can be kings and it’s better to know your place.

Going for an extremely hot woman when you don’t have money, power, influence or macho traits  is like buying a Mercedes when you earn less than 50k a month. You won’t afford to fuel it and repair it.

It is one thing to seek relationships with extremely hot women, but it is another thing entirely to do so absent any consideration of what you bring to the table. If you want to have beautiful women in your life, you had best make sure that you are the kind of man capable not only of attracting them, but keeping them around.

When you are a high value male, you are capable of fixing an extremely hot woman’s manners to some extent but when you are ordinary, that power is out of your hands. In that case it’s better to just go for a woman who has good manners already.

If you are a rich fella telling your ’10’ girlfriend, “I want you to stop partying every weekend with your friends and drinking too much,” she will obey immediately. But if you are an ordinary guy telling your ’10’ girlfriend the same thing, it will end up in a fight.

So, when you are a normal man looking for a lady to have a long-term relationship with or marry, I’d advise you to pick a lady that’s either a 7 or 8 on the scale ( I believe that after being a constant reader of this blog, you should have enough skill and character to attract a 7 or an 8). Such a lady will be beautiful but not too hot. She is also more likely to come with manners installed into her system already when compared to the 9 or 10.

Don’t just go for a super unattractive woman with the excuse that she is well-mannered. Looks matter. Women are mostly treated according to how they look. If you marry an unattractive woman, you are more likely get an unattractive daughter too. Would you want to have a daughter who doesn’t look good? I don’t think so.

There’s a popular old school Kenyan song whose lyrics include the words “Uzuri wa mwanamke sio urembo, ni tabia.” That’s true but not to entirely. Urembo has to be in there too. You need to have a wife or girlfriend that you are sufficiently attracted to, one that turns you on every time she walks around your house, not one that reminds you of Kizza Besigye. The same wife that turns you on should be able to cook and clean at all times, not tell you,”Mi sijiskii kuosha vyombo leo. I’ve just done my nails. Si unaeza enda kupika na kuosha vyombo?” 


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